Watch Out for the Blind Spots |
Posted: May 8, 2013 |
Blind spots can be pretty dangerous when you’re driving…..I’ve had some real close calls because I didn’t see the other guy right next to me. Same goes in my life. I have blind spots off the road that I can’t see or am not yet willing to see in myself. You? Oh, I can see your blind spots a mile away. But not mine. We not only don't see them in ourselves, we cling to them despite all the trouble they cause us. Wonder why? We think we need them to survive. {It worked before.} Our identity is enmeshed in them. {To release the problem means to kill our identity.} So your survival and your identity depend on NOT seeing or releasing the “blind spots”. If this sounds like you… " I keep adding this ingredient to my soup, even though it tastes awful." …you found a blind spot, Peaches. Being human, we'll always have some blind spots, but an objective opinion helps you see with more clarity. Find someone you trust enough to help you answer these questions:
Let me prepare you…when you get honest, when you drop the denial, all kinds of emotions are going to be unleashed. Anger will show up pretty quickly. Anger at yourself will surface, too, but don’t be fooled. It’s not anger. It’s shame. You may feel vulnerable and exposed after answering those questions – especially if you were honest- but I’d like you to take a breath and go one step deeper by asking this last one: What am I embarrassed or ashamed to admit? Shame is how we got here, people. Shame is how we stay here and it’s why we struggle with self love. Our identity is rooted in shame and it’s become our default position. Speak your shame now to someone safe and release its hold. This may be the most important part of telling your story. Let the past be over. Make the unconscious conscious,and with gentle persistent practice the shame-hold will release. Heads up: Shame is not giving up without a fight. Expect it to keep coming back. It will appear to attack you. That’s ok. Don’t get upset. It thinks it’s protecting you. It was always trying to protect you. YOUR WHOLE LIFE CHANGES WHEN YOU SEE THE ILLUSION, AND REALIZE YOU ARE ENOUGH. It’s time for a new now.
|
||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
|