Doormats are for Doors |
Posted: October 12, 2012 |
Doormats are for Doors Exploding is raging anger, burning is resentment. Neither are healthy for you. Boundary setting issues can be across the board, or situational. I think we all know people who are just “too nice”. Stand up for yourself, we cry! “Oh, I could never do that. It’s not [Christian, ladylike, kind…fill in your favorite].” Waiting to set boundaries, not acknowledging what you’re REALLY angry about guarantees an explosion or an implosion. And the crockpot keeps on cooking…. Then there are the situational boundaries. I can speak up at home, but not to my co-workers or boss [God forbid]. Or I can speak up on the job, but in relationships I’m willing to take whatever is dished out. Hello, doormat. Never expressing your boundaries guarantees resentment – you literally stew in your own juices. Victims, passive aggressive behavior and illness quietly ekes out. We punish ourselves and everyone around us. [Usually subtly.] And the crockpot keeps on cooking… Forget Oktoberfest – it’s Independence Day, friend!
I’m not saying there won’t be consequences. I’m not saying you will get everything. I’m not saying act inappropriately. Contact me for your free consultation.
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