Humpty Dumpty Syndrome |
Posted: February 23, 2016 |
Humpty Dumpty Syndrome There are many times on the journey of your life where you notice an incongruence in your reality. Call it an imbalance, but the job, the spouse, the home which once felt safe now create an unsettledness. While trying to remain focused in the familiar, you sense something is terribly OUT of focus. In other words, the familiar is no longer as comfortable as it once was. Uh oh....Humpty Dumpty's about to fall off the wall... How can one become so totally out of balance with who they are? Good question...problem is THAT'S not the queston we ask ourselves. Instead, we ask, "Why is this happening to me?" And we move into blame. Blame a circumstance or a person. It's not my fault--I am innocent here. Hello, Victimhood. Good to see you, Co-dependence. Or perhaps we try shame. Of course my life stinks; I'm an idiot. Shame sounds like blame, but it's more insidious. Blame says I DO dumb things.... shame says I AM dumb. Then bless their little hearts, there's always the DIDA Family to the rescue: deny, ignore, distract, avoid. Can you say addiction, boys and girls? ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ See, you may be FEELING out of focus, but it's not that you're out of focus at all...it's that your Inner Self is telling you to change the current focus, AND YOU DON'T WANT TO. Let me say that another way...you don't want to change focus because you don't want to take responsibility. Ok. I get it. I really do. After a week, look back and ask your Wise Self: what did I learn, here? It is not a failure to recognize when you are off course; it's a Good Thing, Peaches. So get quiet and listen. Give your self permission to reset the focus by taking responsibility NOW to change course. Your Wise Self will work like a compass to steer you back to the right path of being in your own power. You can't heal without it.
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