If it Walks like a Duck... |
Posted: December 24, 2014 |
If it Walks like a Duck... Do you know how common it is to get involved with someone, hoping they’ll change? We don't really hope, we convince ourselves the change will happen and just ignore the warning signs that it's not. Good luck with that. Sometimes it's tricky. I dated my husband 7 years prior to marriage. Seven years. There were signs I ignored, yes, but after the wedding, he became a very different person. [Or finally showed me the Real Person he was.] I denied what was happening, first. When that stopped working, I moved into addiction behavior to manage the pain AND to distract myself from the hell-hole I called a great life. I lived in the world of I-can't-believe-he's-really-like-this. It carried over into my work as people would use me over and over. My crap-meter no longer worked. I became unable to accept their behavior for what it was. Abusive. We lie to ourselves about our relationship with parents, with spouses, with families, and with friends all the time. Would you buy a painting you hate, hang it in your house and look at it everyday? Why do you do it with people? Because we still haven't admitted the truth of who they are. Well, folks, if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck.... As Maya Angelou said, "When people "tell" you who they are...BELIEVE THEM. The first time." To landing butter side up,
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