Don’t Tame it, Reframe it! |
Posted: July 31, 2013 |
Don’t tame it, reframe it! Feeling lost? Angry? Want to kill your [boss, wife, kids, friend]? Hate your job? Hate your body? Overwhelmed with that to-do list? What to do besides flipping out, blaming, crying or screaming? Hmm….
I’ve done all four [and more] and still do them. But here’s something that perhaps you HAVEN’T tried: Reframe the experience. Quick story: I remember coming home one day from the grocery store, trying to juggle multiple bags in my arms so I could just make one trip into the house. I was swearing the whole way…too many damn bags! Then I stopped. I wondered how many people would LOVE to have the “problem” of too much food? I felt embarrassed by my reaction. In that instant my frustration was “reframed” into gratitude. Please understand…I’m not saying reframing is the magic bullet for every problem. With a violent husband, soul-sucking job, disloyal friend – reframing may not always be your best option, but it’s a great tool to have in the workbelt. It keeps the focus on your responsibility and what you can do to help you. Here's how I reframe:
This is NOT about approval – this is about accountability, discernment and balance. BIG difference. Bottom line: look at the best way FOR YOU, FOR RIGHT NOW to deal with the crazy. Perhaps that way is to make a change. Perhaps you need to wait to make a change. And perhaps a mental reframe can be the perfect tool. It’s your life. Take it back.
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