What has your spouse done that makes you feel worse? Is it possible to forgive him? If you feel that there is no way you can forgive him, this is a major obstacle to saving your marriage. Perhaps it is you who needs to be forgiven? Is it possible that you forgive yourself? These are questions that must be evaluated honestly before making a final decision. If you are not able to forgive or forgive yourself, it will be difficult for there to be trust within the marriage. Without trust, no marriage can work.
An external mediator can always objectively show you the things you cannot see when you are too close to the problem. A counselor can point out weaknesses in marriage and help them find better ways of relating.
One of the reasons couples avoid marriage counseling is that they fear being attacked, but that is not usually the case. Counselors are trained to be objective and to ensure that none of the spouses feel attacked. Counselors make each party see the walls they lift and how they communicate with each other.
Is it worth saving your marriage? Are there still times when you enjoy your time together? If there are no good times left, and you can't imagine having them in the future, you might have a difficult problem to repair. counselor
Before deciding if it is worth saving your marriage, it is important to consider the feelings of the other person. Is your spouse willing to strive to improve things? If both members of the marriage are not willing to strive, it is difficult for things to be fixed on one side.
But if you both want to fix your marriage, these tips will help you remember why you fell in love with each other. That love is still there. They just have to find it again.
At Ascend Therapy Naperville our therapists specialize in marriage counseling and family counseling, teen and young adult issues and treating anxiety, depression, stress and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). Our therapists have worked with hundreds of people serving a wide array of mental health challenges and life stressors using a variety of treatment options such as Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), as well as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT).
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