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“YOU LIKE ME, YOU REALLY LIKE ME!” Remember Sally Field’s Oscar acceptance speech? “YOU LIKE ME, YOU REALLY LIKE ME!”? She still is paying for that one…I know they say actors are notorious for low self esteem, but honestly, it hits us all. If you want to address this concern, I think you need to dig through some layers. See, I used to be a big fan of self-improvement; now I’m a big fan of self-acceptance. We’re not broken, regardless of what we’ve been told. We don’t need to fix ourselves, we need to love ourselves. Suggestions… 1. Re-Brand yourself I’m reminded of on old comedy routine by Roseanne Barr, where she informs the audience she is NOT a housewife, she is a “domestic goddess”. Did the job change? No. But how she viewed and treated herself, did. Don’t underestimate the power of words, people. One of my favorite quotes is “The Me I see, is the Me I’ll be.” Yah, baby. 2. Challenge the Self Talk I know this is old news, but we do it so often, we don’t even hear ourself, anymore. Ask your friends to tell you every time you verbally berate yourself. You may be shocked. Stop buying the junk people are selling you! Clint Eastwood was told he was too ugly to ever be in movies. Walt Disney didn’t have the creative chops to be successful. Einstein was a slow learner. Head straight to the returns counter with any negative self image and get your money back, cuz you were robbed, friend. 3. Practice Self Care If you want to hear the expert on this, google Cheryl Richardson. She is the Queen of self care, in my book. Start by taking time for you. Schedule it in the dayplanner. Permission to be 100% devoted to you is hereby granted. I can’t help you fill your tank when mine is empty. And a lot of you are running on fumes and telling yourself “everything’s fine”. Doesn’t work for your car, and doesn’t work for you. 4. Know when to Stop We confuse letting go with quitting. Not the same thing. The Ore Ida company has a program that identifies Perfect Failures. Some ideas may be great, but they’re not the right fit, y’no? However, we keep at them, wasting time and money cuz the idea was so darn good! Ore Ida says recognize the brilliance by proclaiming it a Perfect Failure and then let it go. Closure given; time to move on. Smart, huh?
Be it weight loss or life issues, in my coaching practice I find my clients let someone else’s opinion matter more than their own. Often, I find people don’t even realize it. If you’re not sure if this is you, take a look at someplace in your life you feel stuck. I would bet it’s a situation where you gave away your power, and let someone else take over. We confuse self care with selfish. They are NOT the same. That’s just ego talking. Put on your butterfly glasses and see yourself for the masterpiece that you are, Caterpillar. [and not that it matters, but yes, I like you, I really like you.] Annie-Pat For more info on Fezzik coaching: http://zippy9991.wix.com/fezzik#!home/mainPage
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