Is Your Life a Trampoline? |
Posted: November 29, 2012 |
TRAMOPLINES – NOT JUST FOR CHRISTMAS, ANYMORE! Today’s blog has a bit of trampoline in it, but it still hits home for the holidays. [Can you say rebound, boys and girls?] Holidays are LOADED with dysfunctional dynamics, bouncing off the walls. Hard to escape it, even with the turkey and gifts and menorahs and tinsel… I think we all agree drama at ANY time can wear many different hats - emotional, physical, financial, sexual etc. We may see the effects it had on us initially, but we often ignore how it still affects us now, including a rebound [trampoline] effect on others. Basically, we’re a hot mess. [And holidays seem to really bring it out.] Initial effect: I was mistreated. Now effect: I let others mistreat me; I believe I deserve it. Rebound effect: I mistreat others because it’s what I think is normal. See the trampoline yet? In the middle of a trauma, a child dissociates from the experience or the feelings that arise, i.e. anger, frustration, being out of control, helplessness or worthlessness. To admit the reality of the situation is intolerable. The child must create a coping mechanism: they lie to themselves about what was occurring. To tell the truth is too painful. As we mature, we seek a match for our childhood-created reality of what we defined as love, respect, validation, compassion, etc. ***Our childhood “reality” becomes our adult “normal”. It doesn’t stop there, Popeye. It overflows into how we treat people. We project our hidden feelings onto others, verbally or physically. REBOUND! Of course this deepens our emotional pain and the cycle repeats. [Better than a washing machine, you are.] The more cycles, the more self sabotaging behaviors appear. How would you feel if you could make it all stop? You CAN make it stop. Dismantle the default. Tell your story. Find the truth. Restore your power. When you’re ready… I'll be glad to walk home with you. Annie~Pat
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