Why Women Feel More at The Start of a Relationship |
Posted: July 21, 2017 |
It sounds familiar to many ladies; At the start of the relationship, the sparks splash. You have a constant sense, you fantasize about it, but after a while the desire drastically diminishes. How is that possible, and above all, how do you get the desire back into your relationship? Not in the Mood for Sex When you start a relationship and you are in love, the hormones run through your body. The 'butterflies' ensure that women are often in the mood for sex. They fantasize about it during the day and often initiate the sex themselves. Thinking about sex often decreases within a year to a year and a half. The relationship then changes form and switches to 'loving'. Along with the first exciting love phase, the hormones that caused your sex drive to reach high altitudes also disappear. Of course, there are also women who continue to make sense, whether or not the infatuation phase is over. The one simply has a higher libido than the other. But there is more to it. Men and their Sex Organ Men generally think more about sex than women. They are more visually inclined and fantasize a lot about sex, whether or not they are in love. Moreover, the object of their desire is less specific. Men can already get excited by a fluttering skirt, deep necklines or a pair of beautifully shaped buttocks in jeans. For men, the head therefore functions perfectly as a sex organ. Women less visually oriented For women there is a lesser degree of this visual attitude. When they see a man getting dressed or undressed, most women are not immediately excited. Less is being fantasized, so that women are less likely to get excited. In general, daily worries such as work, children and household occupy the most thinking time of the ladies. These matters leave little room for the thoughts of sex. In other words; most women do not use their heads as sex organs, and that is an essential difference between men and women. Perhaps the statement "Women come from Venus and men from Mars" is related to this phenomenon. Do you and your partner want to know more about this theme? Do you want to learn what women need to get sex again? These sex video courses can be helpful to learn more about better and satisfied sex. Sex as proof of love; the misunderstanding The fact that many women are less focused on sex and less likely to have meaning has nothing to do with the love they feel for their partner. The degree of desire is therefore no proof that they love their partner more or less. This is a big difference between men and women. Men seek love in sex with their wives, and women value feeling more; how do you deal with each other, is there sufficient attention, understanding and appreciation for each other? Because men show their affection differently from women, the reduced desire of women evokes uncertainty in them. They have the feeling that they are no longer wanted and experience this as a lack of love. However, this is a misinterpretation of reality and therefore an important misunderstanding within the male-female relationship. Quality of sex Another element that plays a role in the decreasing sexual desire of women is the quality of the foreplay (if there is any). Certainly when a relationship lasts longer, foreplay is very important for women to get in the mood. After all, the woman fantasizes less during the day and has to be stimulated by the man to get meaning. In the later phase of the relationship, sex is often initiated by the man, but without the foreplay. Because he thinks about sex a lot, foreplay is not a necessity for him and he prefers to go straight for his goal. This can rob the woman. After all, she wasn't preoccupied with sex. Men often underestimate the importance of foreplay because no foreplay was needed at the start of the relationship. "It worked great at the beginning, right?" they ask themselves confused. Tips for making love with attention Sex becomes so much richer if you do it with attention. With love, making attention is about stopping with a goal (orgasm) wanting to pursue. It's about really being present at everything you do. Being curious and open. Feeling per moment, without thinking about what your next step will be. What helps you to slow down: Put all your attention in touching an arm, chest, buttock, leg, back. How does someone's skin feel under your touch; the hairs, the skin. But also the smell, the birthmarks, the structure. Learn to truly receive a touch; be careful where you are touched with all your attention. Feel what the touch does to you. What desire it may evoke, and where you feel it in your body. What makes sex satisfying for you? And what is it like to slow down? Share it in the comments below.
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