Jeney explains. ''You may just be self-sabotaging because you are afraid to let anyone in too closely.'' When this happens, it can be because of the fact that you're not aware of (or just don't know how to handle) your insecurities, projections, assumption, attachment style, and behaviors. Do not let current issues pile up and smother what fire exists in your relationships. It may feel natural to compare your current partner to someone else-whether it be an old flame of yours or a friend whose relationship you envy. Action to Take: Identify the first time you felt this sense of panic and pinpoint it to an event to see how it's playing a role in your current situation. After you see someone's photo and a small biography, you can either swipe left if you dislike them or right if you do like them. Think about it like this: Anything you feel you won't care about in 30 minutes shouldn't be something about which you need to be right. Even if you think the truth will be hard for your partner to hear, they'll appreciate it in the long run. Even if you absolutely adore your partner, they still may chew a little too loudly for your liking or hog the covers at night.
