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If you were to ask me: what is the spiritual pathway that leads to deeper awareness, I would say hunker down. I believe we go through a “W.A.R. process” prior to awareness. Willingness + Acceptance + Readiness = WAR. If there is a key to allowing self awareness it is in this “battle”. First, be on the lookout for avoidance issues cropping up, for who really wants to go to WAR? Achievement is one not-so-obvious block to awareness. The idea being if you achieve [X], than what you want will magically happen for you. You have probably seen this in jobs and relationships. Common hiding place. Denial is another block. If I bring up a question/subject to discuss and my client casually dismisses it, I withdraw. If there is anger or defensiveness present, I’m 90% sure there’s denial setting up a roadblock.
Where to begin the adventure into self awareness? Trust that the Universe has your back, whether you see it or not. Do not judge outer appearances or allow your imagination to be reality. From trust comes willingness- your first step in the WAR process. Trust takes time. Had a client "watch" me for months before calling. I'm just like that. From willingness, you progress to accepting your life as it is – past and present- no matter how bad it feels. Acceptance does not mean denying. This isn’t Doormat 101. Neither does it mean ignoring the past. It DOES mean two things: seeing it, without any judgment and taking responsibility for your part, WITHOUT blame, shame or guilt.
Owning what you did is not beating yourself up for it. [or anyone else.] Responsibility is acknowledging the role you played, and how that role helped you survive. It’s also seeing now how it’s hurting you to stay in that role.
Stay with me, now. We are not running from or denying tragedy or fear. We are accknowledging what happened. Period. Not “it helped me, it got me here, it taught me a lesson, they couldn’t help it, it wasn’t their fault..” Stop. Stop with the “why’ it happened.
Asking why or rationalizing it are other avoidance tactics. Good or bad, IT HAPPENED. We’re not letting anyone off the hook and we’re not blaming anyone, either. Acceptance is a surrender that allows your true reality to appear. It is essential for readiness, the next step.
NOTE: As acceptance occurs, it shifts your focus from the mind and toward your feelings. This new focus will allow you to see other issues that have been blocking you. Heads up, cuz you're gonna get angry.
Fear, anger, recrimination and despair are other opponents you meet when becoming aware. [There are multiple blocks; it is very individual.] You have given your mind permission to create situations that unveil your blocks. Acknowledge the courage that took. This is moving forward.
GOOD NEWS: as you become aware of the opponent you also become aware of its deception and that leads to freedom. It can feel miserable, but it is a sign you are healing! So many people stop here. My hope is that you are not one of them. It gets easier.
If you made it this far, I applaud you! Take a breather. Tough stuff. Here’s some mellow music to enjoy. You earned it.
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