It's Not My Fault |
Posted: July 31, 2014 |
It's Not My Fault If I pick up a pan and the pan is hot, do I hold on to it or drop it immediately?I drop it, right? Physical pain is one thing....but why do I hold on to emotional pain? There is something in me that has a relationship with the hot pan [the pain], so letting go of the pan is letting go of that relationship. Even if the relationship isn't healthy.... Until you come to terms for how that relationship serves you, YOU WILL ALWAYS BE IN PAIN. Want to let the pain go? This may feel counter intuitive, but to let it go, first let it out. Thank it for protecting you. Appreciate it--don't be angry or resentful. You’ve been shutting down and ignoring that voice for a long time. Let It Out. Next, let's dive a little deeper.... You don't let the pain in for fear of being hurt. You still can't believe something or someone will be there FOR you, not against you. [Including you. ] You want to be right about all this and you want to have someone to blame. Lose the pain, who do I blame? This is about fear. Fear of being wrong, of being punished and abandoned. Again. This is also about your vision of God. You have God in a little box because that's all you know, so it's all you believe. Here's what you do: 1. Allow the feelings and the fears to surface. Face them full on. Listen to them. You will discover something quite amazing: they don't want to hurt you. They want to be heard. 2. Now do the same with God. Tell Her everything. All your little secrets, all your shortcomings, all your hurt and all your anger at Her. Be prepared for another amazing discovery: She loves you No Matter What. She never stopped. And She's not mad, Peaches. She's just glad you're home. 3. Begin to take responsibility. Responsibility is not blame--it's power. Responsibility is when you stop expecting anyone to meet your needs anymore, because they never will. Bullies don't want you to see that, do they? Wonder why not.... I don't care about who or what others say you are--I know your Divinity already. I want to know who and what YOU think you are. It is not insult from another that causes you pain. It is the part of your mind that agrees with the insult. Agree only with the truth about you, and you are free. ~ Alan Cohen
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