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Posted: June 8, 2017 |
Men Love a Woman In ChargeFirst, few if any men who are actually intimidated by a woman will tell her theyre intimidated. Theyre automatically making themselves appear weak and vulnerable. Given how many men avoid feelings like those as much as possible, why would they freely choose to put themselves in that position? The one time men will freely make this confession is when hes talking to a beautiful woman. Hes stroking her ego and trying to make himself appear insecure, letting her think she has the power in the dynamic. Women do this too. We let men think theyre in control at times when theyre really not. Im not implying that this is some sort of devious form of manipulation.Both genders engage in this kind of game, and its usually to get what we want or maintain harmony in the relationship. Smart couples know that some battles just dont need to be fought. If a man tells a woman - be it a female friend or a woman hes dating - that he or another man finds her intimidating, usually hes just trying to soften the blow. Shes not really intimidating to men. Shes off putting. Whatever the reason is for him losing or not having any interest in her, it has nothing to do with actually being intimidating. The word "intimidating" is just a nice little umbrella under which all these more accurate descriptors fall. Adjectives like "bossy" and "snobby" and "demanding" and "bitchy." Men use this excuse because they know well secretly be happy at the thought that men are intimidated by us. Then theyre off the hook. Its a way for them to avoid getting in to an argument or hurting our feelings. But its also their way of saying "Its not them. Its you."
Bottom Line? Most men, the good ones, the worthwhile ones, love a woman who doesnt put up with their shit. In fact, they want that. They need it. Were the ones that put and keep them on the straight and narrow. Believe it or not, guys actually do get tired of dating and sleeping around. They get to this point where they decide its time to grow up. Theyve managed their career, theyve managed their credit and finances, they can cook and clean and take care of themselves. Theyre not looking for a Mommy or a Warden. Theyre looking for a partner, someone to help them re-adjust that internal compass and point them in the direction of the things that matter. The ones who do shy away from "strong" women...well, theyre usually up to no good anyway. So if youre frequently being told youre intimidating to men, you either manage to meet/ are attracted to an unusually high number of sleazebags or....youre turning some of these guys off in some way. Being told youre intimidating - to anyone - is not a compliment. Its a warning. I agree with the Bottom Line: "Most men, the good ones, the worthwhile ones, love a woman who doesnt put up with their shit." But I dont agree with the bullet points before that -- the steps you took to get there -- because they dont take into account men who are insecure. When a man is insecure, or has a fragile ego, or hasnt grown up yet, he can fairly easily be threatened by a woman who is smarter, makes more money, expresses herself confidently, questions their BS, etc. - Paula Right. Except the majority of men arent insecure. Some of them are, but they are not the average or typical male. See, this is another myth women like to get out there to justify why theyre still single. The "average" guy is NOT insecure. If a woman continuously encounters such insecure men, truly insecure men, then she should rexamine why and how she keeps meeting and attracting them.
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