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Dear Abby, What advice do you give the person who’s always giving you advice? Signed, Curious
Some people just love to give advice – often without being asked. Have you ever tried to give THEM advice? That’s another story, huh? Regarding advice, here are some behaviors that got me thinking... The Expert There is one person that comes to mind immediately when I think of people who love to tell others what they should change – ME! When I focus on you, it sure keeps me from looking at what I need to work on. Plus it closes me off from learning anything new. A real lose-lose scenario. Change Required but Ignored Success requires you to change to stay current. Products need to meet market conditions, especially in pricing and in value. Customer service needs to be more personal. Online presence, social media is status quo. Are you resisting change? Do As I Say But Not As I Do We can make great suggestions, but reality is people are watching what we DO more than what we SAY. You know, like telling your kid not to smoke, as you light up your cigarette. Or telling your customers how important service is, then never addressing any of their problems should they arise. Be The Change You Want To See I believe that each of us has the ability to change but change only comes from within. [We can thank Gandhi for that one.] You cannot change anyone but you. Can you make your kid eat her vegetables? Consider if you really need to be in anyone’s business with the advice-giving. Perhaps it’s better to concentrate on your business. When Help isn’t Help My favorite - we often confuse support with advice. Big difference in “Here’s what works for me” and “Do it this way”. Which would you be more likely to consider?
Heaven forbid I give any advice here, but… [and here she goes, Ladies and Gentlemen..] “If you always do what you always did, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.”
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